The other day an episode of Behind the Music sparked a heated debate between my friend and I about teen pregnancy and cycles alike. In the episode lil' Wayne's mother encouraged her unwed teenaged son to bring home some "grand babies" because she was lonely.
I said, "Well makes sense... to her," and my appalled friend said, "there are some things that are just wrong!"
I was once told "We are the sum of our experiences, and how we interpret them will determine the decisions we make." For me there are two distinct parts to this quote.
The first: What we go though shapes us. Every once in awhile some event will take place in my life, significant or insignificant and based off of what I see and feel I cannot remain unchanged. But you could go though the same exact event with me and leave with not only a different perspective but also reaction. Why? That brings me to the second part: How you interpret it will determine how you act. The tricky part, and what I believe creates the cycle is: your interpretation and reaction are based strongly on how you have been shaped.
Now you might be saying what about strong parenting, religion, or believing in God? Shouldn't that put us on same path? Well ever meet two siblings brought up in the same household who turn out to be completely different? Ever date someone from a perfectly good family who "loved the Lord" and they turned out to be disgusting? How about the full out brawl between Bro Soandso and Sis Whatshername during the nominating committee meeting?
Who's to say lil' Wayne's Momma was right or wrong? If we draw our conclusions based on our experiences maybe it made perfect sense ... to her.
What I will say is that if you have a little mind that you can shape or if you know better, share. This way someone else' experiences can be deepened by your own, and destructive cycles can be broken and new progressive ones can be born.
- Add Alli 4 Clarity
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