Disclaimer: I write this entry with hesitation because I’m not quite sure that I want to open myself up to the scrutiny.
Have you ever met someone whose perspective of themselves is so far off reality? They think they are being one way and the rest of the world is reading it differently.
This entry is inspired by a close friend of mine. He loves to analyze me (thinking he knows everything). Sometimes he is spot on, other times so far off base that he leaves me to question how I have behaved. Now don’t get me wrong, the fact is that there are not too many opinions that I give any consideration. Hey, can’t please everyone! But there are those that I do. Keeping in mind that no one person will have a full picture of you as there are many facets to each of us. This happens to me because what I expose to one person in a certain environment I may not in another. And I don’t think that’s fake either. I think it makes you appropriate. You don’t act the same as you would in the board room as you would with your homies.
So I asked myself this: If I were to ask my best friend, ex, mother and heck my boss to describe me, would there be anything in the description that caught me off guard? I enjoy this exercise because it puts perspective on how those exposed to different sides of you may see you. Reality Check anyone?
I think My Mom would say:
I love my daughter. She is very talented and what she puts her hands to she does well. She has the gift of gab and commands attention. She is strong minded and opinionated. But she can be a bit rough.
I think My ex would say:
This one is difficult. Especially since I don’t know, and if I did it would be none of your business.
I think My boss would say:
I’ll leave my boss out of this. I’m not going to lose my job over lack of discretion on the internet. I refuse to fall prey to that obvious misstep. But based on my last employee performance review I’m straight.
I think My best friend(s) would say:
Alli is loyal and will stand up to anyone in the defense of her friends and family. She is open to try new things unless it’s lame. She likes what she likes. She has a very low tolerance for foolishness and will call you out in a second if she thinks it’s wrong. However she recently realized that not everyone wants her opinion. She has an addictive personality, when she finds something she likes she kills it. Not to mention she has a staring problem. She may be turning into an old caribbean women, she says very crazy things. I can count on her cause she is down for me. She does wired things sometimes and cannot explain why. We love to laugh really hard till we can’t breathe.
Hey, not everyone is going to like you, (I got over that a long time ago) but if no one does, check yourself. All in all I hope that I have left a positive impression on the world, and that the people I love can rely on me.
“People will never remember what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.”- Unknown
-Add Alli for Clarity